Born That Way
We are all brothers and sisters. We lived with God before we were born. With us to this life came certain temperaments and tendencies that lead us to make certain choices to behave in peculiar ways. We were born with dispositions towards certain behavior and tendencies that influence our choices. As pre-mortal children of our Father in Heaven, we are related one to another, family.
Within any family arise conflicts and passions that may obscure the true way things should be. We were born to experience temptations and hardships, not to sail smoothly on placid waters. The plan of God is that through the things we suffer, we learn to become like He is and overcome the world. What does the world teach us about ourselves?
It teaches us that we cannot help our lives. We do not have control over our lives because of what happened to us. We are in as much control over our lives as we will allow ourselves to be. I am not Gay, Transgender, Bisexual, or Lesbian, but I have the Holy Spirit who allows me to empathize with others.
Read the following excerpt from the Book of Mormon:
“…Fools mock, but they shall mourn; and my grace is sufficient for the meek, that they shall take no advantage of your weakness;
“And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them.
“Behold, I will show unto the Gentiles their weakness, and I will show unto them that faith, hope and charity bringeth unto me—the fountain of all righteousness
“And I, Moroni, having heard these words, was comforted, and said: O Lord, thy righteous will be done, for I know that thou workest unto the children of men according to their faith…” Ether 12.
Ponder what these verses place in your minds, and keep it in your hearts as we explore Gender and Righteousness.
Homosexuality And The Church
God does not hate people who have same gender attraction. He created them. The desires that lead us to want to procreate come from divine origin. We are given these desires to help keep the commandment to procreate. The purpose for those desires is for starting families and enjoying our spouses, not to gratify our desires. We can direct our desires for the commandments of God or give into our predilections because doing so is much easier. The commandment from God still stands.
Elder Dallin H. Oaks of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day states regarding sexual relations bellow that,
“[t]his principle applies to all of God’s children, for He has declared that all sexual relations outside of marriage are unacceptable. Everyone has temptations, but one of the purposes of mortality is to learn to overcome them. President David O. McKay beautifully defined spirituality as “the consciousness of victory over self” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1969, 8).
“These temptations, which are uninvited, may be powerful, but they are never so strong as to deprive us of our freedom of choice.
Elder Dallin H. Oaks continues, “All of us have some feelings we did not choose, but the gospel of Jesus Christ teaches us that we still have the power to resist and reform our feelings (as needed) and to assure that they do not lead us to entertain inappropriate thoughts or to engage in sinful behavior” (“Same-Gender Attraction,”Ensign, Oct. 1995, 9). Improper thoughts diminish if you replace them immediately with uplifting, constructive thoughts.”
The sexual desires still come from heaven, but the function of or direction of the behavior comes from the individual circumstance here on earth. God planted the desires within us to enjoy sexuality, which is sacred in nature, but He expects us to hold that procreative power within the bond of legal marriage, and between Man and Woman. It is the order of heaven and the plan for the salvation of the human family.
Same gender attraction makes it difficult for those who suffer from it to reconcile faith and physical desire. Same gender attraction is not a behavior anymore that heterosexual attraction is a behavior. After a certain age, the body starts to produce hormones that lead people to act on the inclination for sex. Any type of sex will feel pleasurable if conducted properly to stimulate the nerves. Two heterosexual males could easily provide stimulation that will produce a physical reaction–and still not have any attraction for one another.
The brain is very impressionable. Positive experience towards homosexuality could produce homosexual desires within heterosexual people. Bisexual people may be the result of environmental influences that promote lifestyles out of normal society. Homosexual and heterosexual roles defined in society help to contribute to behaviors. If acceptance of homosexual relationships continues to increase, the following generation may identify more with Bisexual identities rather than strict male and female roles.
God has decreed that a man shall have a wife. This means that homosexual sex and premarital heterosexual sex are incorrect and cannot be disputed religiously for Christians. God specifically mention homosexual behavior in the Bible in the Book of Leviticus 20:13 speaking to Moses to instruct both the priest and the people and it is made clear throughout the Bible that God supports heterosexual relationships.
People who do not adhere to the law of chastity in The Church of Jesus Christ will be dealt with on an individual basis, but the outcome is to stop the behavior or be removed from the association of the church. Personal desires for sexual gratification must be placed aside for brothers and sisters with same gender attraction to remain active participants. The church condemns all sin the same–including sexual sins between unmarried heterosexual people. The church only sustains marriage between men and women as stated in The Family: A Proclamation to the World first published in 1995.
Gender And The Church
God had declared that men in mortality were men spiritually. In other words, before any of us were born, our spirits were male or female. Any attempted to re-assign gender will only end in the disappointment of those that discover the therapy that one must constantly receive to support such an unnatural process will end by a lack of hormone treatment or death. Gender reassignment is unnatural because artificial means must be employed to support the cosmetic needs of determined individuals.
It has been argued that a male brain could possibly be in a female body due to fetal absorption during pregnancy of fraternal twins. Such a rarity may be in the realm of some possibility being that a biological occurrence called a Chimera does occur.
Chimeras are people born with multiple DNA types that can occur in the blood or organs from one part of the body than another–such as the heart organ being a different DNA sequence than the lungs for example.
In the article of mine entitled Identifying Psychological Disorders and Substance Abuse, I was informed by a reader of the existence of chimeras. The research is documented but does not suggest that a man or woman biologically can be trapped in the other’s body. This reader, Deborah Sexton, wrote an article relating to it entitled Choice Or Genetics-The Human Condition. In it, she suggests that chimera-ism may be the cause of some of the orientations away from normal gender preferences. As stated before that view may or may not prove possible. Fair warning; her article supports same-gender marriage being that within her Temple, she is Jewish, such ordinances are allowed.
What does the church teach about such things? The leaders warn us not to be easily led by the theories of scientist that change as new pieces of evidence are revealed. We are all born with susceptibilities towards certain feelings.
“… Beware the argument that because a person has strong drives toward a particular act, he has no power of choice and therefore no responsibility for his actions. This contention runs counter to the most fundamental premises of the gospel of Jesus Christ…”
Christians, especially Latter-day Saints have a duty to understand all these things so that we may be able to have empathy.
Living opposite gender roles as constituted by society also has stressful psychological effects on people’s of faith. If a person has mutilated the sex organs to resemble the opposite sex, he or she must live with the consequence when he or she discovers his or her divine potential. Upon discovering this potential, the person must then adjust to how to fulfill it with the self-imposed physical handicap.
Pure Love of Christ
Ether 12:26-29 with additional insight:
“And when I had said this, the Lord spake unto me, saying: Fools mock,” the people who have tendencies that lead them to homosexual or transgender lifestyles. “but they shall mourn” that persecute the child of God who has these tendencies; “and my grace is sufficient for the meek, that they shall take no advantage of your weakness” those that have transgender or homosexual tendencies;
“And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness” like homosexuality and transgender tendencies “that they may be humble” not confused. I gave you those tendencies; “and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things,” these tendencies, “become strong unto them” that they will not fall to them but keep the commandments.
“Behold, I will show unto the Gentiles” and repentant children with these tendencies “their weakness, and I will show unto them that faith, hope and charity bringeth unto me—the fountain of all righteousness,” control and mastery of all tendencies and weaknesses.
“And I, Moroni,” and any person dealing with the psychological tendencies toward homosexual or transgender issues, “having heard these words, was comforted,” and can be comforted, “and said” and can say: “O Lord, thy righteous will be done, for I know that thou workest unto the children of men according to their faith”
The late President Gordon Bitner Hinckley related, “In [our] quest for self-mastery, remember the importance of living righteously in private as well as in public.”
He urged: “Our behavior in public must be above reproach. Our behavior in private is even more important. It must clear the standard set by the Lord. We cannot indulge in sin, let alone try to cover our sins” (“Personal Worthiness to Exercise the Priesthood,” Ensign, May 2002, 52).
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